Gender and Sexism - Male Experiential

Teacher Guide
Contents / Procedures
Time allocation
Goal/ Purpose:
To explore how we feel about ourselves as men and women; to explore our feelings about our own gender as well as the other gender; to develop greater understanding of our roles and relationships through a dialogue that engages personal/interpersonal experiences; explore the influence gender roles have on leadership and specifically on us as African American and Latina/o leaders.

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1. Think and write critically and analytically across the curriculum
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1. Are culturally aware and work towards understanding diverse perspectives, values, and histories
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1. Are adaptive to a wide array of professional and cultural settings
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Defining “Sex” and “Gender”:
Often the words "sex” and "gender" are used interchangeably. In this program, however, it is important to help clarify the differences between sex and gender. This distinction is a useful one, in order to keep us focused on the fact that many female-male differences have little or nothing to do with biological differences between the sexes. In other words, when we talk about gender, we are not focused on the physical anatomy.

Definitions:
Sex- Refers to a person’s biological make-up, that which is female or male. This includes chromosomes (XX, XY) and is directly connected to the genitals and the physical body. It is anatomy-based. (Include symbols for both male and female)
Gender - Refers to the non-physiological aspects of sex. This includes cultural and social expectations for femininity and masculinity. In other words it is what is learned.
Gender Identity: An individual’s private experience of self as a female or male.
Gender Role: A set of behaviors socially defined as appropriate for one’s sex.
Example(s):
Feminine – Wearing Make Up, Wearing Dresses
Masculine – Not Shaving Legs, Lifting Heavy Objects
Intersex: A person born with varying degrees of both male and female genitalia and characteristics
Transgender: A person whose self-identification challenges traditional notions of gender and sexuality. Categories lumped together under this term include cross-dressing, drag, transgenderism, transsexualism, androgyny, and many shadings between these larger groupings.
Transsexual: A person who wants to change his or her physiological gender, and to live permanently in the new gender role. Transsexuals can be further divided into pre-operative (pre-op) and post-operative (post-op).
Sexism: A system of advantage based on sex that benefits men.

FOR YOUR CONVENIENCE, THESE DEFINITIONS HAVE BEEN ORGANIZED IN A POWER POINT THAT PROVIDES A SUPPORTING LIST TO HAVE A DIAOLGUE AMONGST GENDER GROUPS AND COMMUNITY DEBRIEF SESSIONS. THESE SHOULD BE PRINTED SLIDE SIZE SO THAT YOU MAY POST THEM IN THE CLASSROOM AND IN HANDOUT FORMAT SO THAT STUDENTS MAY HAVE A COPY. YOU CAN FIND THESE OPTIONS WITHIN THE PRINT OPTION WINDOW AT THE TIME YOU ARE READY TO PRINT.

MOVING TOWARDS GENDER GROUPS
Men’s group
1. Have men create a circle with chairs. Have the men share their names and how it feels to be grouped this way. Go around in a circle
2. Instruct them to read all phrases.
3. Ask the men to underline the statement if is true for them. Instruct them that this piece is a silent exercise. Ask the men to focus on their own experience and their feelings.
4. IF YOU AS THE FACILITATOR/TEACHER have developed an environment for your students to feel comfort with each other then, proceed to read the statements yourself and have students stand up for all statements that apply to them.

Statement for men
· I have had conversations with others about my gender identity.
· I feel strongly connected to others of my gender.
· I have worried that I was not tough enough.
· I have exercised to make myself tougher.
· I have been called a wimp and /or a sissy.
· I have been forced to fight or I have been in a fight because I felt I had to prove that I was a man.
· I have been in or I plan to be in the military.
· I often feel my behavior is different from others of my same gender.
· I have been told to behave more like a man.
· I feel uncomfortable if I see a boy playing with dolls.
· I have been told not to cry in front of others.
· I project a feminine appearance in this society.
· When I was growing up, I felt I had more restrictions that the other gender.
· If I needed financial help, I would go to a person of my same gender.
· I have stopped myself from showing affection toward someone of the same gender because of how it might look.
· People assume I can fix a car.
· When I was growing up, I felt that I needed to change something about the way I looked to fit my gender.
· I project a masculine appearance in this society.
· My gender identity is important to me.

Debrief questions for men
§1. Was there something new you realized as a result of the statements?
§2. Was there a particular statement that stood out for you?
§3. Have you ever felt that your behavior is different from others of your gender? If so how has this affected you?
§4. How does it feel to be a man?
§5. What do you enjoy as a man? What do you struggle with as a man?
§6. What are the messages you received growing up? From who?
§7. What are the messages you receive about what it means to be a man from other men?
§8. Are the expectations you have of Latina women the same as the ones you have for Latino men?
§9. Where do these expectations come from?
10. Do you think the messages women have received for men and society are similar to the messages men receive?

Walk-Thru @ walk way (This will have to be set up from point A to point B

1. Each man will walk through the exercise by himself.
2. Walk slowly and silently.
3. Men should keep in mind that the women must re-live their real-life experiences during the experiential in order for men to increase their understanding of sexism.
4. The men will be told that they will not be touched.

**Note: Please be aware that some of the men may have been victims of (mental/physical and/sexual violence) and this exercise may bring up feelings based on these experiences. If you notice anything check in with the students before beginning Walk Thru and/or notify Resource Team.

MATERIALS NEEDED
POSTER PAPER AND COLOR PENS-MARKERS OR IF YOU AS THE TEACHER –FACILITATOR FEEL COMFORTABLE CREATING A SPACE WITH THE WOMYN TO HAVE MEN LISTEN TO THEIR FRUSTRATIONS WITHOUT GETTING ANY MALE REACTIONS-FEEDBACK, THIS WOULD BE THE MOST EFFECTIVE WAY TO LEAD BOTH GENDER GROUPS INTO THE NEXT PIECE.

Instructions for Walk-thru / Whisper room
Please allow last 10 minutes for preparation Walk Thru and Whisper Room. Show what the walk through and whisper room will look like, show an example. Describe the difference between the Walk Thru and the Whisper Room.

The whisper room
Men will be placed, standing close to one another, facing the wall; they will be instructed to keep their eyes closed. Women WILL SHARE MESSAGES THEY HAVE HEARD FROM MEN (Example: You are a stupid bitch, It feels better without a condom).